If you’re on social media then you’ve most likely heard of the 90s butter mom trend. It’s all about nostalgia, slower living, less screens, more analog and outdoors. Trends come and go— from ‘hot girl’ to ‘soft girl summer’ to ‘cottage core’ and now the 90s and early 2000s aesthetic, fashion, and music making its resurgence. For reference, aesthetic refers to a set of principles that guide the taste, style, and visual appearance of a movement, culture, or individual.

But I don’t want my life to be rooted in a trend but Truth instead. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to wear overalls, start a garden, and raise chickens in your own backyard. But there’s so much more to this trend at the heart of it. Rather than dismissing, here’s what I see: women want more and less simultaneously.

We’ve been sold the lie that retail therapy makes us happy and that minimalism gives us peace. It’s obvious that we’re all struggling with information overload, overstimulation, and worry. We fight a daily addiction to our phones while trying desperately to implement boundaries so we don’t raise ‘iPad babies.’

Notice how this 90s trend is our response to the girl boss hustle culture and overconsumption. The fast pace, packed schedules, and overflowing closets made the pendulum swing yet again to a desire for simplicity. Our houses are cluttered and so are our souls.

At the heart of the 90s butter mom aesthetic is a desire for peace and joy.

Decluttering as a Biblical practice

We’ve confused ‘living to the fullest’ with packed schedules and stuffed houses.

Clutter isn’t just a home problem... it’s a heart one too. A cluttered home is the symptom of a cluttered soul. And even a tidy home has hidden clutter. When I say clutter, I don’t just mean the physical stuff. Another type of clutter can be emotional or mental like information overload, stress, and anxiety.

Because peace doesn’t come from a perfectly organized house, your curated social media posts, or a seemingly tidy life (trust me, I tried!). True lasting peace, not just relief, can only be produced by the God of peace.

So what can we do? We need to declutter our hearts and simplify our lives. We need to quiet our minds and hearts (like well known theologian Thomas Watson and missionary Elisabeth Elliot wrote).

What if an abundant life is actually a quiet life? Abiding in Christ leads to an abundant life— not an abundance of stuff but rather peace and joy! As I sat with Jess Connolly and recorded this podcast episode, I described decluttering the heart as repentance rehearsed and abiding applied.

I love how this Bible verse mentions being refreshed by the Lord as a result of repenting— “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord” (Acts 3:19-20).

Simplified Summer

I don’t want to romanticize, optimize, or upgrade my life. I JUST WANT TO ENJOY MY LIFE. That’s what this series is all about. Simplified Summer (June-August) will include a monthly decluttering workshop and a printable digital guide for paid subscribers (only $7/mo if you subscribe here). Consider it a refresh for your soul and home. There are 7 women in our monthly membership and I’d love for you to join too! Each workshop will include the 4-step Gospel-centered approach of Declutter Discontent™.

What’s Included:

• Simplify your routines workshop

• Simplify your systems (for home management) workshop

• Simplify your calendar workshop

• The Art of Divine Contentment Book Club

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Mixed feelings on Mother’s Day

A year ago, my first Mother’s Day was bittersweet because of postpartum struggles and I was convinced that all I really wanted was a nice family photo. But the photos didn’t turn out like I had hoped and no gift can truly satisfy the heart. This year, our first Sunday back at our old church in Kentucky also happened to be Mother’s Day. The Sunday school lesson was on the topic of forgiveness. The sermon was on the story of Joseph from the book of Genesis and his life very much was all about suffering, forgiveness, and God’s providence.

I held back tears on and off because the only thing on my mind was how much loss we’ve experienced. It was bittersweet to hear people say how wonderful it was that we were back and yet we miss our families, especially the loved ones that are no longer with us. How bittersweet to hear “Happy Mother’s Day” and yet feel like I’m waiting for the ‘happy’ part.

Lia Ross, an internet friend, briefly shared her heart on Instagram with a photo from her daughter’s birth back in 2020. She expressed gratitude for the gift of motherhood but also shared the reality of living in a fallen world impacted by sin. It stopped the scroll for a moment. She wrote, “Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms who don’t always find themselves seeing the ‘happy’ in this holiday.”

Her story inspired this post because I personally know many mothers currently experiencing loss like me. While the circumstances are varying, the heartache is present. I often have to remind myself that Christians are not immune to suffering and that I should not be surprised by sorrow no matter how shocking the pain is. I also have to preach these truths to my own heart daily:

I am loved and rich in Christ (Ephesians 2:4-6).

I am not alone and I belong in the family of God (Ephesians 2:19).

This earth is not my forever home—heaven is (Hebrews 13:14).

And yet I have so many unanswered prayers and questions. I don’t know how God will bring about goodness from the trials (Romans 8:28) but I do know that God is near the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). And that is enough (easier said than done right but it’s true).

I’m also grateful for another online friend, Rebecca George. I started reading her book last night on Mother’s Day and it hit me— waiting is a universal experience.

She shares two types of longings: relational and vocational. She writes, “The world tells us: my joy depends on my longing coming to fruition. God tells us: Biblical joy only comes from abiding in Jesus.”

I’ve mostly heard the term ‘waiting on the Lord’ in reference to singleness (waiting for marriage) or infertility (waiting for children). Waiting looks like praying, hoping, abiding, and trusting God’s timing.

This is what I’m waiting for:
— Waiting for my business to flourish
— Waiting for texts from friendships I miss and lost
— Waiting for forgiveness
— Waiting for my family members’ salvation
— Waiting for my brother’s mental illness to finally get better
— Waiting for my dream house
— Waiting to see my dad again in Heaven one day
— Waiting for the grief to go away
— Waiting for healing from the trauma
— Waiting for restoration when Christ will make all things new one day

We’re all just really waiting for joy and Heaven.

Decluttering in the ‘waiting’ and grief

Biblical joy and contentment is found not in the longing fulfilled but in abiding in Jesus. The Bible instructs us to rejoice in the Lord always (Philippians 4:4). It’s so hard to believe this truth! So how do we find or choose joy? Here’s the simple answer: declutter every time you feel discontentment. I like theologian and Puritan, Thomas Watson’s definition in his book The Art of Divine Contentment (free on Kindle). Discontentment means wanting what you don’t have to the point of not enjoying what you do have. Joy starts now. Declutter your home and heart; enjoy the life God gave you.

I started decluttering six years ago and it transformed my life. Declutter Discontent™ is a gospel-centered approach with four simple steps: take inventory, refresh space, create systems, and implement systems and boundaries. Visit my website if you’d like to learn more about this framework and approach. I also offer a signature online course, which helps Christian women learn how to declutter not only their homes but also their hearts. If you’re looking for a beginner’s guide to do some decluttering and spring cleaning, download this free checklist below.

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A heart-to-heart conversation

Two weeks ago, I relapsed (not to be dramatic but it’s true).

I’m reading the book of Job right now in my Bible reading plan and it’s never resonated more with me than in this particular season.

Like an addiction, I stumbled again and went back to my vice of choice for relief only to feel worse. I went on Instagram at night right before going to bed (I broke my “office hours” boundary). I clicked on a friend’s Instagram story and saw a photo of her with another church friend. They were smiling and hugging and based on the decorations in the background, it was clear. She had a birthday party and I wasn’t invited.

When I saw the photo, I felt a wave of emotions from sadness to envy and anger.

As my husband comforted me, I sobbed and said out loud, “I hate it here. I hate my life. I want to go home.”

I don’t really know where home is for me. It’s been almost one year since moving and starting over. And it’s been four months since losing my Papi unexpectedly.

Unlike Job, I grumbled instead of lamenting. I let resentment take a root in my heart, which grew into bitterness. I relapsed. I went on Instagram looking for who knows what (maybe some validation, attention, or funny video to make me feel better), grumbled angrily, and complained against God.

Let’s start here. Who was Job?

He was not only rich with a large family but he also had an estate, including land and livestock. But more importantly, he was a man of integrity and devotion to God.

He was a man of complete integrity, who feared God and turned away from evil. He had seven sons and three daughters. His estate included seven thousand sheep and goats, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen, five hundred female donkeys, and a very large number of servants. Job was the greatest man among all the people of the east.

Whenever a round of banqueting was over, Job would send for his children and purify them, rising early in the morning to offer burnt offerings for all of them. For Job thought, “Perhaps my children have sinned, having cursed God in their hearts.” This was Job’s regular practice.

What happens to Job?

And as the story goes, he lost everything… all of his children, servants, and animals died. He went from being a rich man to poor. He didn’t just lose his job; losing his livestock (source of income) meant his livelihood was devastating.

Then Job stood up, tore his robe, and shaved his head. He fell to the ground and worshiped, saying: Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will leave this life [will return there]. The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Throughout all this Job did not sin or blame God for anything [ascribe blame to God].

Job eventually experiences suffering in his body too. Even his wife encourages him to get angry at God and grumble against Him.

His wife said to him, “Are you still holding on to your integrity? Curse God and die!”

From my perspective, Job’s life was completely ruined. The severity of loss is truly unimaginable. Grief, poverty, and physical pain… And yet, this is how he responds.

“You speak as a foolish woman speaks,” he told her. “Should we accept only good from God and not adversity?” Throughout all this Job did not sin in what he said [sin with his lips].

He confidently professes what he believes in his heart— God is still good and even the suffering he faces is a part of God’s plan (see Genesis 50:20 & Romans 8:28).

Imagine the weight of the loss and to make matters worse, Job was not comforted by his friends or spouse. He called them “worthless healers.”

His friends are quick to offer their solutions and answers, speaking confidently as if they know why God allowed the suffering and what would be the remedy, rather than just grieving with Job.

At one point, Job pours out his heart to his friend, saying:

I am disgusted with my life. I will give vent to my complaint and speak in the bitterness of my soul. I will say to God, “Do not declare me guilty!”

Job grieved. He cried out to God instead of cursing God. To curse God is to abandon the faith. As he lamented, he walked toward God, not away.

What does Job’s story have anything to do with us?

In The Art of Divine Contentment by Puritan and theologian, Thomas Watson writes, “The difference between a holy complaint and a discontented complaint. In the one we complain to God; in the other we complain of God… Angry complaining is the daughter of discontent.”

That book changed my life and we’re reading it for our quarterly Joy Book Club (become a paid subscriber to join)! Also, this book is FREE on Kindle.

So, back to my moment of relapse and spiraling into a full-on discontentment tantrum. My husband prayed with me. I confessed my sin of envy and anger, deleted the app, and went to bed. (We did watch one episode of a light-hearted sitcom to help soothe me to sleep. I’ve noticed this helps when I become so overwhelmed with grief and crying.)

I don’t call myself a recovering shopaholic but a reformed one because to reform means to make a change– a change in direction.

It wasn’t just my home that needed decluttering. Decluttering the heart is repentance practiced– turning away from your sin and turning toward Christ.

There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ because those who are in Christ are made new (see Romans 8:1).

That’s what Declutter Discontent™ is all about and why I started decluttering five years ago. Instead of turning to retail therapy or doom-scrolling, try decluttering your home and in the process, notice how your heart is decluttered too.

Honest marketing

I’ll be honest. Yesterday, I worked on my newsletter and then closed my laptop. I don’t think it was imposter syndrome but a combo of discouragement and maybe hopefully a little humility too. I think about quitting all of this often— my decluttering services, social media, etc because who am I to talk about contentment?

But then I wrote today’s post and I remembered that I never claimed to be an expert on contentment. I also remembered that the apostle Paul literally called himself wretched and then immediately after gives thanks to God. That’s the whole point! I’m just a sinner who was saved by grace through faith learning the art/practice/skill of divine contentment. Instead of quitting, I’ll keep decluttering my own heart and home and tell you all about it too in hopes that these resources will help you live more joyfully and peacefully in Christ.

I know this is strange right? Maybe not but I’m calling it honest marketing. Here’s what I had planned to share yesterday but needed to get this (post) off my chest first.

+ Last month I launched my Declutter Discontent™ online course (along with a 40-page workbook, 12 pre-recorded lessons, and 1 live coaching call)!

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A different approach to setting goals

Do you want to live abundantly? Do you crave change and direction but not sure how to make it happen? Do you desire help with goals, habits, or burnout?

Consider this workshop a reset for your heart and habits. I love a fresh start but sometimes I don’t know how or where to start. Exit survival mode and thrive this new year as you set Spirit-dependent goals and live abundantly by abiding in Christ.

Ready for a joy-filled and fruitful year? Buy New Year, Renewed You here!

Why I made this course

A year ago when I was only 6 months postpartum, I decided to leave the nonprofit “industry” and workforce entirely to be a SAHM. I thought I was having an identity crisis or mental breakdown but a fellow mom friend lovingly called it a “moment of clarity.”

Personally, I felt lost during the newborn stage. Everything was new (from learning how to care for a baby to breastfeeding, sleep schedules, etc) and I w constantly was overwhelmed. I was told to ‘enjoy it’ but I wasn’t enjoying motherhood at first. I was just trying to survive. But deep down I wondered how I could thrive…

I left my job in November 2025 and by December, I had the margin (and enough sleep) to dream again and felt compelled to create a resource for the woman who loves goals but doesn’t want the hustle. She’s learning a full schedule isn’t the same as living fully. Her priorities are changing because her perspective has. So I created a mini online course and workbook called New Year, Renewed Me.

Who is it for?

For the Christian woman who is a:

• college student

• young professional

• mom (especially new moms)

• ministry leader

For the Christian woman who is:

• exhausted and running on empty

• burnt-out and depleted even before the start of a new year

• defeated from past goal-setting but desires direction and change

• needing support with priorities and time management

For the Christian woman who desires:

• refreshment

• renewal

• Biblical principles and perspective on for goal setting

• practical coaching to set goals and resolutions

What’s included?

The mini online course includes:

• 3 teaching/coaching sections (reflect, reframe, & refresh)

• 4 pre-recorded lessons (each 5 minutes) (I recommend giving yourself at least 1 hour to allow for time of reflection and note taking as you watch the videos)

• 1 bonus instructional ==video and activity with a journaling exercise to teach you the difference between goals and resolutions (and why I actually use both!)

• 20-page digital workbook (you can also download and print it if you like taking notes by hand!)

P.S. It’s on sale now (until January 1st) for only $5! Price will go up ($25) in January so get it discounted while you can! Buy New Year, Renewed You here!

The root of negative body image

Everyone has a body image. Some have a positive one but most people have a negative body image. The root of negative body image is discontentment. It’s a dissatisfaction of your body, weight, or God-given traits like your genetics, height, ethnicity, and gender. Some people experience dissatisfaction due to a combination of the aforementioned.

Our beliefs impact our behaviors. Theologian Charles Ryrie wrote, “Healthy theology produces holy living.” What we believe about God and the Bible impacts what we believe about ourselves and others, which then impact how we behave. Our behaviors include how we treat ourselves and others. We were created as body and soul. God cares about our bodies because He created them and as people designed by God, we are His image-bearers. Some people neglect their health and others obsess in unhealthy ways. Both can be related to negative body image.

Enjoy watching over reading or both? Check out my YouTube video on this topic! You can watch my entire series all about decluttering your heart and wardrobe and designing a wardrobe and life you love over on YouTube.

5 ways to declutter your heart of negative body image and discontentment

1. Get ready every day

   I’ve been doing a little experiment. This method is called ‘dopamine dressing.’ Start dressing in clothes that actually make you feel good, especially if you’re a stay-at-home mom or work from home. This is just a simple yet impactful way to boost your mood and bring a little joy into your day! The more you dress in what you love, the more you’ll grow in confidence and love how God created you with healthy self esteem and body image.

2. Get off social media

   I decided to get off social media for the summer. I deactivated my Instagram account and I deleted my Facebook account all together. Matthew 6:22-23 (English Standard Version) says, “The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” So, as believers, we are called to be very careful of what our eyes see and what we consume. One way to guard our eyes and hearts is to get off of social media for a season or entirely.

3. Go to God in prayer

   Sometimes this step is the most obvious and yet the most forgotten or neglected. If you struggle with negative body image and you often practice negative self-talk saying things like “I hate my body,” go to God and pray. Sadly, it is a serious matter than often can be overlooked or dismissed. However, negative body image can lead to severe struggles like disordered eating and self-harm. The battle of negative body image begins with our thoughts. One of my favorite Biblical passages is in Philippians 4. The Apostle Paul instructs Christian to first pray, then meditate. First, bring your concerns, burdens, and worries to the Lord and also praise Him with gratitude. When you do that, you’ll experience God’s peace in your heart. Then, consider your thoughts. What consumes your mind? What are you focusing or dwelling on? Rather than believing lies or obsessing in unhealthy ways, meditate on God’s Word, which is Truth. Paul includes a list of what to meditate on: what is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise… And the best promise? When we put this into practice, “the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9).

4. Get biblical counseling

   Sometimes we need more support. Watching a YouTube video or reading a newsletter like this is a good first step but community and counseling is so vital for living a healthy life both spiritually and physically. Reach out to your pastors and mentors. We all need accountability and help from others. I’ve listed an online counseling organization below if you want and need biblical counseling for issues like anxiety, disordered eating, people-pleasing, and more.

5. Get the best swimsuit

   I have found a swimsuit from Old Navy that is not only flattering but also so comfortable. Some bathing suits are uncomfortable because they’re are too tight or really exposing. Others are modest but not stylish at all! I really do think this is the best bathing suit for all body types and sizes.

More resources on the theology of the body

Dr. Lainey Greer writes, “Treating the body well begins with thinking well of the body. Christians believe in a God of created and resurrected bodies, who became embodied to bodily redeem us, and who indwells our bodies to empower us for embodied holy living. So, we glorify God in our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:20).”

Lainey is a friend, author, and founder of Your Body Matters and creator of the programs, Understand Healthy and The Bible and Your Body. She is passionate about Christian theology and body stewardship and strives to give believers the tools they need to glorify God in their bodies. By providing an understanding of a theology of the body and wellness basics, Lainey equips Christians with a biblical foundation for the body and the tools to apply it to daily life.

The Stack

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→ My Dopamine Menu (Mom Edition) 🍓
Need more joy in your life? Sometimes life can feel mundane. Here's a feel-good list rooted in the Gospel that can actually help Christian moms and women in general both spiritually and physically.

→ Not Too Late for Joy: A Summer Bucket List for the Woman Who Feels Behind or Too Busy 🌞
If you're already missing summer as you prepare for the fall season, this is a no-pressure, no performance list— just a reminder to play, rest, and make meaningful moments, right here and now.

→ Ins and Outs for Living Fully this Summer 🌴
In this seasonal “ins & outs” list, you'll find what I'm saying yes to—like slow rhythms and play—and what I’m letting go—like negative body image, un-comfy bathing suits, and Instagram.

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Here are some of my current favorites for you to check out!

📚 Dr. Lainey Greer’s Health Programs + Resources → Learn More

🤍 Anchored Hope Virtual Biblical Counseling → Learn More

In My Giving Pile

Here are digital products that I’ve made to give to you and my online community to help you live fully!

💻 Visit my website Declutter Discontent™ → View Here

🎥 Check out my YouTube channel → Watch Here

📦 Buy my digital guide From Clutter to Calm → Buy Here

It’s officially summer! And in case you missed it, we moved from Kentucky back to the West Coast. Our long-term plan is to build a tiny home but for now, we’re staying in Mexico with my family. You can follow along our journey over on YouTube!

This summer is definitely bittersweet. Starting over at 30 with my baby boy who officially is a toddler is a lot of change to navigate! I’m really grateful to have a sense of comfort and familiarity with my family. But I miss my house back in Kentucky. As a homebody, that has been one of the hardest things to let go of. So, in true Liz-fashion, I made a list to help me feel somewhat settled and hopefully it will help you too.

In this seasonal “ins & outs” list, you'll find what I'm saying yes to—like slow rhythms and play—and what I’m letting go—like negative body image, un-comfy bathing suits, and Instagram.

Ins for the summer:

(1) Living fully without a full calendar
I really do think the root of FOMO (fear or sadness of missing out) is because we’ve come to believe a full schedule means a full life but those aren’t synonymous. Whether your life feels boring, heavy, mundane, or lonely, you can live fully. Even if your peers are going on all-inclusive vacations and you’re currently home navigating the newborn stage, you too can experience life to the fullest amid postpartum struggles. For more encouragement, you can read about the postpartum care kit that saved me last summer during my 4th trimester. Or if you’re trying, praying, and waiting, you too can live fully right here and now. I say this with compassion as I think of people I know and love dearly experiencing infertility. How do I know this to be true? Those who are in Christ have been promised and granted abundance. In John 10:10, Jesus says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” Amid our various circumstances, we can live life to the fullest because Christ is with us and for us. He not only promised this but also fulfilled it through his life, death, and resurrection. And in Christ, a life of abundance means a life full of joy, peace, hope, and so much goodness even in hardship.

(2) Embracing life-giving routines and rhythms (over rigid plans)
I know ChatGPT is a bit controversial but I find it pretty helpful. It takes energy and effort to be creative or strategic ya know?! And when we’re tired, we could use a little extra help. So I asked ChatGPT to help me make a morning routine and it was revolutionary. As a recovering perfectionist, former wedding coordinator, and first-time mom, I’m learning that routines and rhythms are different and better than schedules because even if your plans don’t go your way, you can still carry out your routines regardless of time or location.

If you’re in need of some inspiration too, copy and paste this prompt into ChatGPT. Focus on how you want to feel as the outcome. You can also decide how long or short you want your morning and evening routines to be along with specific details personalized for your particular your stage of life (e.g. mom of # of children, single, working full-time vs part-time, etc).

Here’s my ChatGPT prompt: Write out a slow morning routine that is 5 steps or less and can be done in 30 minutes or less that prioritizes feeling rested and energized because the goal is living peacefully productive as a work-from-home mom with a toddler.

Make your own routine: Write out a (descriptive word) morning routine that is (#) steps or less and can be done in (#) minutes or less that prioritizes feeling (descriptive words) because the goal is living (descriptive words).

(3) Prioritizing play (over obsessive productivity and hustle culture)
I spent my most of my twenties building a resume, which is a really good thing. But now that I’m thirty, my priorities have shifted and I’m more concerned with building a life. Playing, laughing, and enjoying hobbies without turning them into a side hustle isn’t just fun but also extremely healthy and life-giving. Instead of obsessing over being productive and efficient, I’m slowing down this summer and enjoying the pace.

Outs for the summer:

(1) Instagram
I made the decision to delete Instagram (and Facebook) for the summer. After moving back to California, I feel like I didn’t really ‘move back.’ It’s an old place but I’m a new person. I’m not who I used to be. I’m starting over after building a life in Kentucky for almost six years. I’ve changed a lot and so have the people I once knew in college. Every time I would scroll on social media, it felt like putting on and ripping off a band aid over and over as I miss my old life split between two different places. And sometimes, the only way to heal is to let the cut get some fresh air. It’s easy to become discontent with our bodies, jobs, and lives when we’re constantly comparing while scrolling and swiping. Like a junk drawer, I’m decluttering my heart of resentment, FOMO, grief, and envy by getting off of Instagram for the summer (and maybe for good).

(2) Negative body image (and un-comfy bathing suits)
Like I mentioned, I’m on YouTube these days and I’m doing a series all about decluttering negative body image for you to watch. One tip to grow in confidence is getting rid of uncomfortable bathing suits. And good news— I found the BEST bathing swimsuit ever.

(3) Pity parties
It’s hard to process sadness and other emotions. If I’m honest, when I dwell on these emotions, I usually end up feeling bad about myself and the spiral gets worse. This summer, I’m going to host a different kind of party. Every time I start to throw a tantrum or pity party, I’ll look over my Dopamine Menu (you can read that previous newsletter I sent) and pick one of the options in order to find joy, practice gratitude, and celebrate life!

TL;DR,

In My Keep Pile

Here are some of my current favorites for you to check out!

🤍 Your Body Matters Health Programs + Resources → Learn More

🩱Best Bathing Suit EVER (from Old Navy for Women) → Buy Here

In My Give Pile

Here are digital products that I’ve made to give to you and my online community to help you live fully!

🎥 Check out my YouTube channel → Watch Here

📦 Buy my digital guide From Clutter to Calm → Buy Here

Ins for my thirties:

(1) Dress with confidence and comfort in mind.
I’m done wearing clothes and shoes that aren’t comfortable. Throughout my college and single years, I wanted to look cute. As a mom and wife, I still do! But I’m not willing to choose cuteness over comfort. Why? Because the more comfortable I am, the more confident I look and feel. There are plenty of options that are both cute and comfortable. As a millennial, of course this quote from my favorite movies (She’s the Man) comes to mind.

(2) Declutter discontentment from your heart.
My home isn’t the only thing that needs decluttering. The Bible says the heart cannot be trusted because it is deceitful more than anything else (Jeremiah 17:9) and the heart needs to be guarded because from it flow the springs of life. So, I declutter my heart of unforgiveness, distractions, envy, and other sin. Declutter Discontent™ is a gospel-centered approach to declutter your heart and home in 4 simple steps. The goal is not to convert women to minimalism but to find contentment in Christ and live fully. You can learn more about this process in my beginner’s guide to Declutter Discontent™ called From Chaos to Clarity.

(3) Build a life more than a bucket list.
In my twenties, my priorities included building my resume and friendships. While those are very important and foundational for adulthood, I desire to build a life more than a bucket list of experiences or achievements. I still have goals and dreams but celebrating my son’s first birthday this month put some things in perspective. I want to make memories and traditions as a family even if that means spending more time at home with a smaller budget. A rich life is about your people, not possessions.

(4) Enjoy hobbies (and don’t make it into another side hustle).
While I would consider an entrepreneur as a work-from-home mom, I’ve learned the hard way at times that passions and hobbies are often more fun and life-giving when they stay that way instead of trying to turn every creative project into another side hustle or business endeavor.

(5) Embrace change instead of avoiding or dreading it.
Seminary wasn’t the only thing that grew us. My husband and I were only six months into marriage when we were on our cross-country road trip from California to Kentucky. From culture shock to Covid and more changes, we learned a lot but throughout many seasons, the change felt like growing pains. Change was uncomfortable and difficult. This year as first-time parents has been overwhelming and now we’re starting over in our thirties, which is scary. But my goal this time around is to embrace the change in order to enjoy it rather than fighting or dreading it. I documented the entire process in my YouTube series about our decluttering, downsizing, and journey back to the West Coast.

Outs for my thirties:

I think these first three are pretty self-explanatory!
(1) Following trends just to fit in or find a sense of belonging
Read more on this topic from my previous Substack series here!

(2) Holding on to unforgiveness instead of moving forward
Read more on this topic here.

(3) Using social media as a journal to vent
Read more on this topic here.

(4) Retail therapy
I’ll never forget the memory of when I was attempting to make a purchase with my debit card at 20 years old and my card was declined. It was the wake up call I needed. I worked part-time jobs throughout college but did not start saving money until I got married. For years, I struggled as a shopaholic but downplayed the seriousness of it. My weekly trips to Goodwill seemed harmless to me since I was shopping secondhand. Girl math meant it was totally okay because it wasn’t expensive. But I was wrong! And I finally started decluttering my heart and home of discontentment. This is how Declutter Discontent™ began. Here’s the short version of it. If you’d like to read more, check out my previous Substack on this topic.

(5) Staying up late and skipping meals
If you’re familiar with my story, I struggled with severe anxiety and insomnia for a few years. I got serious about my health in 2020. In my twenties, I didn’t realize I was a follower of hustle culture. But these days, I’m prioritizing healthy habits like sleep, eating nourishing meals, and limiting caffeine intake. Living my best life is about wholeness over hustling so no more staying up late or skipping meals.

TL;DR,

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as we also have forgiven our debtors.

(CSB, Matthew 6:12)

This was supposed to be sent before Easter, but the more that I think about it, the timing seems just right. As we consider this topic, let us look to Christ, the Savior and Great High Priest who modeled forgiveness perfectly.

I wish forgiveness got easier as I got older. I wish it was as simple as when parents or teachers make kids say they’re sorry to one another and move on with playing as though nothing has happened.

I’ve struggled writing this particular piece. For some reason, writing about decluttering pride, worry, and even control seemed a lot easier.

I’ve sat down to write this on a few occasions and it’s just really hard. That’s the thing about forgiveness. It’s simple but not easy.

It’s easy to write about why we are called and commanded to forgive from a theological and even logical perspective. But in my heart, when I think about forgiving those who have hurt me, I’m back to being a seven year old kid who asks questions and remains unsatisfied or confused.

Why do I have to forgive him? He hurt me. He should say he’s sorry. He said something mean. He was unkind. It’s not my fault. He owes me.

The practice of forgiveness can feel like pulling teeth. (Side note: My baby boy is teething so teeth are apparently on my mind more often these days as a parent. This analogy really gives me a picture of just how painful life can be and why so many people are afraid of the dentist.)

As Christians, we know we need to forgive. And yet, we wish there was a tutorial, manual, or formula on how to forgive and really move forward. We are often left with this lingering question.

How am I supposed to forgive and move forward?

We pray.

Jesus taught the disciples this important lesson in the Lord’s Prayer.

This is how we declutter our hearts of unforgiveness.

We forgive because God forgave us. We love because God loved us.

“As the Father has loved me, I have also loved you. Remain in my love. This is my command: Love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15: 9, 12, CSB)

Therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and dearly loved, put on compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a grievance against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you are also to forgive. (Colossians 3:12-13, CSB)

P.S. If you love a simple list, here are 8 Biblical principles on forgiveness.

– Forgiveness is a form of worship and obedience to God.
– It is not a feeling you wait for but a Spirit-dependent action. You need God’s help.
– The most important reason to forgive is to please God, not others.
– Forgiveness is releasing a debt. (I credit my pastor and his wife for this powerful yet simple definition. Colin and Kari, thank you for the many counseling meetings at your home!)
– It is an act of surrendering the “you owe me” mindset.
– It is a continual process, not a one-and-done checklist.
– Time doesn’t heal all wounds but God can.
– The only motivation you need to forgive others is remembering God forgave you.

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Footnote: Or our necessary bread, or our bread for tomorrow.

(CSB, Matthew 6:11)

Two years ago in February, we began the process of buying a house. That’s one of those ‘adult’ things you don’t learn about in school and like health insurance, it’s one of those things I still don’t fully understand.

Our budget was so small that:
1. We saw a lot of houses that weren’t likely to pass inspection, which basically means they weren’t decent enough to live in
2. The houses that were decent enough were located in not-so-decent neighborhoods

We had seen over 20 homes in one month. The initial excitement wore off very quickly. But I vividly remember two particular houses we visited.

We almost bought a house in Indiana and I was convinced my husband and I would be the next Chip and Joanna Gaines. I’m so very glad we realized neither of us are cut out for house flips and extreme renovations.

Then we saw another house that literally had me sobbing in our car right after touring it. This shotgun style house was so close to the neighbors on each side that each window blind I opened revealed a brick wall. The tour only lasted a few minutes.

As soon as our realtor drove away, I sat in our car and cried. I couldn’t bear the thought of working from home and opening up windows only to be disappointed by my view of bricks and no nature. I genuinely worried about how I would cope with seasonal depression. The winters in Kentucky have always been so incredibly difficult for me because of the gloom.

I really wanted a house with three bedrooms so that one could be made into a home office for work and creative projects. I also really wanted lots of windows for natural lighting.

Good news – we eventually found our dream home. Not only did we get a house with a backyard, three bedrooms, and lots of windows, we found a home that was walking distance from our church and lots of trees, which also meant lots of birds (one of my favorite animals).

And every time I would sit at my desk (now a nursery), I smiled with a grateful heart as I enjoyed seeing the blooming tree with many birds perched on it and children playing in the cul-de-sac.

This is why I have a soft spot for birds. Matthew 6 always comes to mind.

“Therefore I tell you: Don’t worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Isn’t life more than food and the body more than clothing? Consider the birds of the sky: They don’t sow or reap or gather into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren’t you worth more than they? Can any of you add one moment to his life span by worrying?” (Matthew 6: 25-27, CSB)

“So don’t worry, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:31-34, CSB)

There is a clear step-by-step guide in this particular passage of Scripture on how to not worry. Jesus instructs us to:

1. Observe the birds and how the Lord provides and cares for them.

2. Reflect with these two questions in mind:
   Do you believe you are more valuable than birds? In other words, do you trust God will provide for you like he does for the rest of creation?
   Can you add more time to your lifespan by worrying? In other words, how does worrying steal your joy and waste your time?

3. Respond by seeking God first and trusting that he knows your needs and will provide.

This is how we declutter our hearts of worry.

As we consider the birds of the sky and God’s sustaining grace, we fix our eyes on Christ and set our minds on heaven similar to the Psalmist who wrote, “I lift my eyes toward the mountains. Where will my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” (Psalm 121:1-2)

When you start to worry, stop and look up. Remember that God cares for you so give your cares and worries to God (1 Peter 5:7).

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Your will be done

on earth as it is in heaven.

(CSB, Matthew 6:10)

I once saw a funny video in which the woman was poking fun at herself and other ‘control-freaks’ saying, “I don’t mind going with the flow as long as I know what time it starts, what I should wear for when it’s time to go with the flow, and what we’ll be doing as we go with the flow.”

That may have been the most relatable video I’ve ever seen.

I like to have a plan. I’m good at it too.

That’s why I thrived when I worked as an event planner and wedding coordinator for a few years because I was good at planning, making a schedule, and paying attention to the details. I excelled at staying calm under pressure because most weddings are predictable. Once you’ve done a few, you’ve pretty much seen it all.

But ever since becoming a parent, I feel like I’m wrestling with God for who gets to be in control and it’s a daily battle. Spoiler alert: God always wins.

My plans and schedules can’t guarantee a tidy life.

As a first-time mom, I have noticed three principles about control.

• It comes in many forms

• Its root is fear

• It's impossible for humans to obtain

We’re not the ones in control. While we have our own wills, we must submit our will under the sovereign and mighty hand of God if we claim to follow Christ.

It is vital to begin a prayer with a right view of God and ourselves. Take for instance Isaiah 55:8-9 – “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways.” This is the Lord’s declaration. “For as heaven is higher than earth, so my ways are higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

His will be done, not ours.

Control comes in many forms. It looks like resenting your friendships because you have unmet expectations. It looks like obsessing over wedding planning during engagement and responding in disappointment when your actual wedding day is over. It looks like a rigid sleep schedule for your baby and responding in anger when he or she does otherwise.

Observe your speech. If you often talk about life seeming like a half-empty glass rather than half-full, you’re probably disappointed because you can’t control anyone or anything despite your efforts. Control often looks like perfectionism, criticism, and dissatisfaction in life.

His will be done, not ours.

At the root of control and anger, you will find an individual who is deeply afraid. It is scary to be out of control. Take for instance – driving a car. Most people wouldn’t necessarily say they enjoy being stuck in traffic for hours but they would rather be the one behind the wheel. When they’re in the passenger seat, they’re afraid of an accident or some other consequence like being late. The individual who is controlling of their friendships or their children is often deeply afraid of loss, betrayal, rejection, and other painful scenarios.

Examine your heart. Your motives can be very telling. When do you find yourself trying to take control the most? How do you typically try to take control?

His will be done, not ours.

Control is elusive. Take for instance James 4:14 – “Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring—what your life will be! For you are like vapor that appears for a little while, then vanishes.” It is impossible for humans to obtain or hold onto because our lives are like a vapor or mist (Ecclesiastes 1).

His will be done, not ours.

Take heart. His will is better than ours. It's perfect and good. Release control and trust the One who holds all things together (Colossians 1:17).

This is how we declutter our hearts of control.

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May your name be honored as holy. (CSB, Matthew 6:9)

The Lord’s Prayer begins with God. How often do your prayers begin with yourself?

I’m so grateful that the Lord is growing me in discipline. (If you’ve always struggled to be consistent, check out this resource I’m using by Hosanna Revival.)

But as I skim through pages of my daily prayer journal, I’ve noticed a pattern. I begin my prayers asking for help almost daily with the phrase: “Lord, please help me.”

While I believe that dependance on God is biblical and necessary for the Christian life, I have begun to wonder if following the pattern of the Lord’s Prayer is essential.

Consider David’s psalm. He begins Psalm 23 by not only acknowledging God but also worshipping him. He writes, “The Lord is my shepherd; I have what I need.”

The psalmist and king begins not with a list of his needs and struggles but with a proclamation of God’s character before he addresses his circumstances.

He believes and therefore declares that the Lord is his shepherd. Because of this truth and promise, he can rest assured that his circumstances are both temporal and insignificant in comparison to God and his glory.

Regarding the temporality of circumstances, they are fleeting and changing unlike God.

“For our momentary light affliction is producing for us an absolutely incomparable eternal weight of glory.” (2 Corinthians 4:17)

Regarding the weight of circumstances, they are small and insignificant unlike God.

“Or I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is going to be revealed to us.” (Romans 8:18)

God is eternal and unchanging, not your circumstances. Praise him! A perspective shift takes place when we behold God’s glory in light of our circumstances and vice versa. Consider a microscope. Anything that is magnified through the view of a microscope seems vast.

This is how we declutter our hearts of pride.

We begin our prayers not with ourselves or our circumstances but with a recognition of how vast and magnificent God is. And I say decluttering because it simply means the process of removal.

That is how you and I should pray… Our Father in heaven, may your name be honored as holy. He is supreme as Creator and King. He alone is worthy of praise and honor. So we humble ourselves as we recognize the finitude of our lives and behold our Creator in who we were made by and for.

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Making a life vs. Growing a life

The Christian life is about abiding, pruning, repenting, and growing, not only during Lent but throughout the many seasons of life. Rather than simply focusing on what to abstain from, consider these question: What kind of life do you want to grow?

Back in the spring of 2023, I didn’t just leave my job as an event coordinator. I said goodbye to my career and college life as a whole.

From the time I was 18 years old, the only home I had known in my for a decade was a college campus. Immediately after graduating college, I continued my education and continued living at my alma mater to pursue my master’s degree.

A couple years later, I got married and my husband and I drove across the country for him to pursue seminary. I was hired first in the Admissions office and then in Online Learning during Covid. But my dream was to work in the Student Life office planning events and mentoring students like I had done before moving. And I got that opportunity. But after two hard years, it was time to prune. It was bittersweet. It was a decision I didn’t want to make but knew I needed to.

A few months before making this decision, I had met with a professor that I deeply respect and asked him to help me process, or in other words, share his insight and coach me in the right direction.

He shared his experience, some pros and cons, but what stood out to me the most was when he spoke of legacy and change. He recommended that I read Let Your Life Speak by Parker J. Palmer.

I pray this quote blesses you like it blessed me.

Palmer writes,

The seasonal metaphor deepens our understanding of the others. [...] The seasonal metaphor also gives our inquiry new scope. Seasons is a wise metaphor for the movement of life, I think. It suggests that life is neither a battlefield nor a game of chance but something infinitely richer, more promising, more real. The notion that our lives are like the eternal cycle of the seasons does not deny the struggle or the joy, the loss or the gain, the darkness or the light, but encourages us to embrace it all — and to find in all of it opportunities for growth. If we lived close to nature in an agricultural society, the seasons as metaphor and fact would continually frame our lives. But the master metaphor of our era does not come from agriculture — it comes from manufacturing. We do not believe that we “grow” our lives — we believe that we “make” them. Just listen to how we use the word in everyday speech: we make time, make friends, make meaning, make money, make a living, make love (pages 95-97).

I’ve wrestled with the notions of identity, career, work, and ambition for a long time. I started reading that book when I felt incredibly confused and conflicted about some life-changes and plans. Here’s how I’d sum up my processing. My work is not my life or identity. My work is purposeful but my work is not my purpose.

I’m so grateful for the work of faithful theologians. The Westminster Shorter Catechism defines the chief end of man, or in other words, our purpose and existence, is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.

Seasons come and go

Why was it so hard to walk away from that career? Because it had become my identity. The day I packed up my office and drove away was the day I said goodbye to my old self.

If you would’ve told me that I would work from home and give birth a year later, eventually becoming a stay-at-home mom, I would’ve laughed from disbelief.

My son turns a year old soon. (Update: my son is almost two since posting this originally.) Now, I smile from gratitude.

How would our lives look differently if we focused on growing instead of making? The Bible uses these seasonal themes often. Consider the words of King Solomon.

In Ecclesiastes 3:1-2, he writes, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted [...].”

I want to grow my life. I want to be deeply rooted. And I see now that the pathway to flourishing isn’t about financial success or popularity but rather the joy of Christian contentment, not minimalism.

Because to be a Christian is to be “like a tree planted beside flowing streams that bears its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.” (Psalm 1:3)

Like the disciple Simon Peter answered “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life…” That’s the kind of living and obedience I’d like to grow — the kind in which I’m convinced and comforted that true satisfaction is found in the One who has the words of eternal life.

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Heart Check-In

Question for reflection: What is one area of your life that you would like to prioritize and grow?

Question for application: How? What’s one step you can take toward growth today?

I’ve been reading through the Old Testament with my husband (in case you’re wondering, we’re using the Bible Recap in the mornings during breakfast before our son’s morning nap and it’s been a game changer as we’ve been able to stay consistent). We’re in Leviticus. I used to dread that book if I’m honest. It seemed like an odd list of dos and don’ts that deemed things clean and unclean, which made no sense to me.

After growing up in the Church my whole life, my perspective changed a few years ago thanks to this series by Nancy Guthrie.

My heart changed when I began to see:

1. The Bible not as 66 separate books but one big story known as God’s Story

2. The Old Testament points to Jesus and He fulfills what was long prophesied and awaited

There are numerous types of Christ in the Old Testament that we see fulfilled in the New Testament. A type basically just means something or someone that foreshadows, or in other words, points to Christ.

For example, the story of Noah’s Ark points to Christ. The ark is a type of Christ because it served to deliver Noah and his family from destruction, which foreshadows how Christ delivers his people from the power of sin and death. Some believe that even Noah was a type of Christ because as God considered ending all of humanity, he found Noah to be righteous and blameless (See Genesis 6:9).

In the book of Leviticus, there are several types of Christ, including the role of the priests. Essentially, without the priests serving as mediators, it would impossible for the Israelite people to worship, even approach, the holy and perfect God. The ceremonial laws we may think are odd or boring were actually a matter of life or death in a very literal sense.

We read in Hebrews 4:14-16, “Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens—Jesus the Son of God—let us hold fast to our confession. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who has been tempted in every way as we are, yet without sin. Therefore, let us approach the throne of grace with boldness, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in time of need.”

There are many reasons why I’m so grateful for Christ. Believers today don’t have to offer animal sacrifices or isolate or quarantine outside of their community when they’ve sinned. Even more so, we get to experience fellowship with Christ and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit while we await the Lord’s second coming. Jesus is our Great High Priest. Such good news!

Why is retail therapy harmful?

The problem of retail therapy is that it is rooted in the worldly perspective that we should follow our hearts. When we feel sad, we want to shop in order to change our mood. When we feel anxious or stressed, we want to stroll around a store in order to find relief and peace.

But our budgets and wallets aren’t the only ones impacted. When retail therapy goes from being a harmless joke to a habitual response to life’s circumstances, we become enslaved to this idol.

An idol is when you make something your god instead of the true and living triune God. And you know when something has become your god when you find yourself thinking that you just can’t live without it.

What is the remedy?

When you are struggling to resist the idolatry of retail therapy, remember Hebrews 4.

• Your priest is merciful and sympathizes with your weakness

• Your priest is perfect and sufficient to atone for your sins

• Your priest is gracious and promises you the grace to help you find in time of need

Jesus is the Great High Priest. I’m preaching this to myself, especially on hard days as a mom when I am in need grace.

We long for peace in the aisles of Target, but we must lay down our idols at the throne of Grace. May we repent as we realize that the counterfeits always overpromise and underdeliver. But Jesus keeps his word. He is faithful.

Reflect: What possession would you consider an idol in your life?

Respond: How can you take small steps of repentance today (as you turn away from sin and turn to Christ)?

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I think maybe one day I will venture into the unknown world of bread making. I did say that one of my goals is to start a new hobby for my resolution of cultivating more enjoyment. (Need direction or encouragement for goals, habits, and burnout? Check out my Abide & Achieve mini-course here!)

Back to bread… For now, I buy sourdough bread from one of my besties, Abbie.

And for anyone who makes or consumes fresh baked goods, you may have learned this lesson too. Now, that I have tasted homemade sourdough, I can never look at the regular grocery store bread the same way again.

Once you’ve had the real thing, why would you go back to the counterfeit?

And that’s the thing, you don’t.

In Psalm 16:5-6, the king and psalmist David writes, “Lord, you are my (allotted) portion and my cup of blessing; you hold my future. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.”

Then, in Psalm 34:8, he adds, “Taste and see that the Lord is good. How happy is the person who takes refuge in him!

David knew God’s love, mercy, and grace firsthand. I used to wonder what the difference was between mercy and grace.

Grace is getting what you don’t deserve and mercy is not getting what you deserve. Grace is like getting a prize that you didn’t earn. For me, experiencing sunshine is an example of grace because it’s a gift from God that I had no possible way of earning or obtaining. And example of mercy is knowing that I will spend eternity in heaven even though I deserve the opposite.

(A quick note for the writers: I would normally cite a quote but I’m not sure which theologian coined that phrase on the difference between grace and mercy.)

David considers the Lord his portion and inheritance. In this context, his allotted portion and inheritance isn’t referring to material possessions. David considers himself blessed and rich, not because of what he has but who he has.

Is less really more?

I’ve been reading the Old Testament book by book with my husband and we recently finished Exodus. And I used to roll my eyes in disbelief wondering how the Israelites could grumble and be so ungrateful. But now, I know I’m no different.

In John 6, Jesus addresses his disciples and says to them, “Truly I tell you, Moses didn’t give you the bread from heaven, but my Father gives you the true bread from heaven. For the bread of God is the one who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world… I am the bread of life” (See John 6:25-59).

The Apostle Paul thinks the same as King David when it comes to contentment. In Philippians 4:11-13, he writes, “For I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I find myself… In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being content—whether well fed or hungry, whether in abundance or in need. I am able to do all things through him who strengthens me” (CSB).

Did you catch a key word? Paul says that he was learned the secret to contentment, not an object but a person. He is referring to Christ. He acknowledges that Christ is the very source of his contentment, not his circumstances. It is Christ who gives Paul the strength, or capacity, to be content.

I often rely on thrifting or friendships to offer me the satisfaction that only Christ can actually meet. I often view coffee as the fuel that will strengthen me to ‘just get through the day.’ So, rather than seeking to fill your home with more stuff or filling up your schedule with more commitments in an attempt to be happy or feel less lonely, seek God. Taste and see that the Lord is good. David and Paul knew this truth. Jesus is our portion and bread of Life. And He is more than enough.

• Rejoice in the Lord (Philippians 4:4).

• Pray as the Lord’s Prayer instructs by asking God to give us today our daily bread (See Matthew 6:11).

• Do not worry and rest assured that the Lord will provide (See Matthew 6:33-34).
  

Reflect: Consider the Scriptures listed above. What biblical truths remind you that in Christ you are blessed?

Respond: What is one way you can practice gratitude today? How can being grateful impact others around you?

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In my experience, moving has been the conduit of pruning by the Lord. When I moved to Mexico at fifteen, I didn’t know then that there was a purpose for the pruning. When I moved to Kentucky with my husband only six months into marriage, I didn’t know that pruning was actually good for me.

I always envied the children in the movies who grew up in one house their entire upbringing. I didn’t even think that was possible until I met adults in real life who really do go back to their childhood homes for holidays or when visiting parents.

I moved around a lot from apartment to house to trailer at one point. And I have a distinct memory of painting my bedroom purple. It was perfect. I still remember it vividly. I had my keyboard facing the window. I had a twin bed near it. The closet doors were mirrors and it felt magical for my musical teenage self.

And then one day, my mom said we were moving again. I’m actually not sure why. I assume now that there were financial struggles going on behind the scenes that I was unaware of. I cried angry tears and said, “I’m done painting any more rooms.”

I was tired getting my hopes up, getting settled, and then uprooting my life over and over. Eventually, we moved and good news, I did paint a few more rooms. Decorating was always my creative outlet and a way of making a space feel like home. In college, I lived on my own in a dorm on campus. Then after graduating and getting married a couple of years later, we moved to Kentucky. It’s been five years now. Here’s what I’ve learned.

• Pruning is an essential principle for the life of a Christian.

• Growth requires pruning.

To prune means to cut back or remove excess branches for the purpose of growth and increasing fruitfulness. Think of a house plant or garden. Growth takes place when Jesus cuts back what needs to be pruned in our lives. That’s what this digital declutter has been all about.

Sometimes pruning looks like going to counseling like I did. Sometimes pruning means deleting apps and decluttering our hearts. Sometimes pruning requires changing certain habits because they aren’t healthy or holy. Sometimes pruning means letting go and moving forward.

Starting over is hard. Finding a new job, church, friendships, and all the changes that come with moving out of state is exhausting. But I cling to the truth found in Ecclesiastes 3:2 that there is a season for everything, even the rain and gloom. There is a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted.

I now see the purpose in the season of growing pains. I think of the words of Jesus found in John 15 and I am filled with contentment. In verse 11, Jesus concludes by stating, “These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy be full.”

Pruning can feel a lot like loss. You may be experiencing a gloomy season filled with heaviness or hardships. But it is purposeful and for our good.

Here’s more good news: God doesn’t only prune us. He invites us to abide in Him. In other words, He calls us to remain connect to Him. How amazing right?!

In John 15, Jesus adds, “I am the vine; you are the branches… Abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love.” Remain connected to Jesus, the True Vine, the source of your dependence and sustenance.

Whatever season of life you’re currently in, remember that you are not alone. And we experience joy when we walk in obedience.

One of my favorite hymns says:

When we walk with the Lord
in the light of his word,
what a glory he sheds on our way!
While we do his good will,
he abides with us still,
and with all who will trust and obey.
Trust and obey, for there's no other way
to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.

Reflect: Consider John 15. What needs to be pruned in your life today?

Respond: What is one practical way you can abide in Christ today?

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No. 1 → Amazon

No. 2 → Social Media

No. 3 → Pinterest

An alternate title for today’s post is Netflix and Kill. Too extreme? I know. That’s the point. Jesus spoke in hyperboles. Let’s talk about it!

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Day 4: Netflix

It’s been almost two years without Netflix. What finally compelled me to cancel my subscription? The Bible.

I know this sounds extreme. Let me clarify. This is not a primary theological issue about salvation. This is a personal conviction based on my own sin struggles and conscious. The point of this digital declutter is to bring light to an issue that is intertwined with discontentment: lust.

1 John 2:16 states, “For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride in one’s possessions—is not from the Father, but is from the world.”

When we think of what lust means, we typically associate it with sexual immorality and in most cases, it is about that. However, lust also means a passionate desire for something. Greed, covetousness, and gluttony are examples of lust too.

Discontentment is the feeling of never being satisfied and the lust is the desire for more.

I’ll be honest. I miss having Netflix, especially during the winter months because I really love their annual release of original Christmas movies.

But my excessive screen time revealed a greed and lust in my heart. A couple of years ago, my husband and I started practicing Sabbath (I’ll write more on that topic eventually). We made a list of what we would do and not do with our time, specifically on Sundays in order to rest from work for the purpose of worshipping God.

I knew in my heart that I needed to spend more time reading and less time on Netflix. So, I decided to abstain from Netflix weekly on Sundays.

I quickly noticed that it was like a drug. I literally craved it like some crave coffee or sugar. It was like a withdrawal. It was on my mind constantly. On Sundays, I couldn’t wait for Monday to begin so that I could go on Netflix.

In Matthew 5:28-30, Jesus said, “If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.” (CSB)

You might be wondering why Jesus would use such extreme language. His language is not literal in this particular passage. He is not advocating for self-harm or self-mutilation. However, he is addressing the seriousness of sin. Essentially, do not simply avoid what causes you to sin. You must completely cut off the source of the sin in your life. Remove it and throw it away. Do whatever it takes at all costs to pursue a holy and godly life.

I was struggling with a ‘lust of the eyes.’ Whenever I watched romantic movies, I would fantasize about having a perfect marriage like the movies. Whenever I watched movies about friendships, I would experience envy and discontentment. Whether it was about wealth, relationships, or fame, the lust grew because of what my eyes were consuming.

My eyes truly loved Netflix. So I couldn’t just turn it off. I had to completely cut it off.

Reflect: Consider the Scriptures listed above. What are your eyes consuming? How does this impact your life?

Respond: What is one source of lust you need to cut off and cancel today?

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Day 3: Worry & Pinterest

You might be surprised. Maybe you can relate. I don’t think we realize how powerful of an influence Pinterest has on women specifically. It really is the most influential. From wedding planning to preparing for motherhood, we seek its wisdom in every season of life.

During engagement, I had a love-hate relationship with Pinterest. I was simultaneously excited and discouraged while wedding planning. Everything was beautiful and picturesque but the problem was my budget.

I couldn’t actually afford the ideas I hoped to execute for my wedding. My now husband, Austin, and I were only 24 years old at the time. We were college graduates and I was pursuing a master’s degree in that season. It was brutal at times between homework, helping as one of my brother’s caregivers after his hospitalization, and feeling hopeless about trying to plan the wedding of my dreams. I’ll spare you the details. I learned a lot from those hardships and if I could go back and relive that season, I would do things very differently now. But I try not to get stuck in regret.

So, I stopped using Pinterest after my wedding day. But then four years later, Austin and I became homeowners and there I was again, plagued by the unattainable perfection that was presented to me on Pinterest. I love decorating and thrifting so styling my home was a dream come true, or so I thought. Every time I would pin an idea for a room, I would feel discontent because I didn’t own that rug, pillow, or artwork that I saw on Pinterest.

Then in 2024, when I was pregnant, I was experiencing information overload as I was making my baby registry, researching all I possibly could about birth, and trying to create the perfect nursery. And there I was again, I needed to declutter my heart by deleting this app.

Then literally a few months ago, I happened to see an idea for a homeschool art activity. I created a board and thought I should get ahead on preparing for the future now that I’m a mom. My son is barely learning how to eat solid food and here I was feeling this self-imposed pressure to be an artistic, creative, and organized mom. I have no idea if I’ll even homeschool my son!

As a type A person, I really do find preparation helpful to prevent from procrastination and anxiety. But this preparation can quickly turn into fear and worry if my heart attempts to grasp for control instead of trusting God in each and every season.

The Bible has a lot to say about worry. Matthew 6 is one of my favorite passages. This section is titled: ‘The Cure for Anxiety.’

Verse 27 states, “Can any of you add one moment to his life span by worrying?”

This is a rhetorical question. The obvious answer is no, worrying does not add to your life. It actually does quite the opposite. It robs us of our time and joy because we waste minutes, hours, and even days consumed by worry when we could choose to live one day at a time trusting that God is the only one truly in control.

Verses 31-34 state, “So don’t worry, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Maybe Pinterest is contributing to the worry you are experiencing. Maybe it’s another type of media like the news. Whatever it is, the way to declutter your heart of worry is to look up from your screen and look up at the sky.

Consider the birds of the sky: They don’t sow or reap or gather into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren’t you worth more than they? (Verse 26)

If you are in Christ, you can rest assured that you are a child of God taken care of and loved by your Heavenly Father.

Reflect: Consider the Scripture listed above. What are you worrying about today?

Respond: What is one practical way you can combat worry today?

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Day 2: Social Media

What platforms are you on? Maybe for you it’s TikTok. I use Instagram for fun and work. I use Facebook to stay connected to relatives, share my son’s monthly milestones as a new mom, and mostly because it helps knowing people’s birthdays. Who doesn’t love a birthday text?! And my all time favorite, YouTube. It began with sharing cover songs as a teenager then turned into makeup tutorials, vlogs, and so forth.

But what intrigued me about Substack and finally convinced me to join was the overall sentiment of many writers: they wanted to leave social media for good, specifically Instagram.

Spoiler Alert: If you love Instagram and think I’m going to tell you to ban all social media, keep reading. And don’t worry; I love it too.

Interestingly, YouTube is considered a type of social media because it fosters a sense of community. So, does that make Substack social media too?

I’m convinced that the algorithm is basically Cupid to trying to match make each of us to the perfect products that will somehow make our lives happier. Careful with Cupid…

The inspiration for this 7 day challenge is my frequent social media breaks, specifically during the months of November, December, and February.

Why these months specifically? It’s because I experience more heartache during the holidays when I see photos and videos of individuals with their ideal lives and relationships.

When I was single, seeing posts daily leading up to Valentine’s Day felt like someone was constantly putting a bandaid on my wounded heart and immediately pulling it off just for fun.

And these days, its the posts about ‘Galentines’ festivities that have the same effect on my heart.

I have a confession. It feels so silly and yet so vulnerable. It’s been five years since my wedding day and I still look closely at photos online and count how many bridesmaids a bride has. It’s like a bad tick at this point. I can’t help it. It doesn’t matter whether the bride is a complete stranger or an acquaintance I follow on social media.

When I see these wedding photos, I think to myself how lucky she is to be loved by so many. Usually my thoughts range from: Why her? What’s wrong with me? How did I lose so many friendships? Will I ever make more friends again?

And the discontentment grows.

While I love my brothers, I always dreamed of having sisters. When I was single, I used to dream of having sister-in-laws. It was another chance of finally having sisters, or so I thought. That has been a dream I’ve had to let go of.

When I was engaged, I wondered how many bridesmaids I would have and if I’m honest, I equated the quantity of friendships to the quantity of love. The more friends I have, the more loved I must be right? It’s a very elementary school perspective on friendships and yet still difficult to combat.

The Bible has a lot to say about relationships and the heart.

Luke 6:45 states, “[…] for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

Proverbs 4:23 states, “Guard your heart above all else,^[a] for it is the source of life” (CSB).

The ESV translation says it like this: Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.

Here’s my encouragement. Notice your speech. If you find yourself overflowing with complaints rather than thanking the Lord, your heart needs to be decluttered of discontentment. And a way to declutter your heart is deleting social media even for a day, week, or month.

Reflect: Consider the Scripture listed above. Why is the heart considered the source of life? How does social media impact your heart?

Respond: What is one practical way you can guard your mind/heart today? For me, I delete apps regularly off my phone.

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What is a Declutter Discontent?

A Declutter Discontent is the process of decluttering your life of specific material or digital possessions and practicing spiritual disciplines for the purpose of fixing your eyes on Christ and finding contentment in Him because the minimalist movement isn’t enough.

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Day 1: Apps

I discovered the power of online shopping when I became a homeowner two years ago. With one click of a button, I could literally get whatever item I wanted right to my front door step. Obviously, I knew Amazon existed long before this move.

Amazon felt like a gift, especially last year when I was pregnant. I started using Amazon almost daily. Ran out of toiletries? Amazon! Ran out of some grocery items I normally get from Costco? Amazon! Need more dog food? Amazon!

This practical tool had relieved my life of the inconveniences of both driving and fatigue.

I found myself scrolling on Amazon as if it were a hobby. It felt like the targeted ads knew my soul and style.

Whenever I felt the craving for something new and exciting, Amazon was the answer! Need another journal, decorative pillow, throw blanket, or lounge set? Amazon! Whenever I was bored, Amazon would fix it! Whenever I was sad, Amazon would fix it! Whenever I wanted to feel complete and content with my home or life, Amazon would fix it!

Or so I thought… Here’s what I learned.

My heart experienced affection for earthly things more than heavenly things.

Often times, the words mind and heart are used interchangeably in the Bible to describe the inner man, or in other words, the human soul.

Colossians 3:2 states, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

Matthew 6:19-21 states, “Don’t store up for yourselves treasures^[i] on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves don’t break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

I experienced an affection for Amazon. So, what did I do? I confessed and repented. I turned toward Christ after literally deleting the Amazon app off my phone. I occasionally use Amazon on my laptop when I need an item. I realized that I’m less likely to make unnecessary or excessive purchases because I’d have to get up from my bed or couch and grab my laptop and that is enough time to accept that I really don’t need more.

Reflect: What thoughts or emotions do you experience in your heart when you feel as though you “need” that one new thing? Consider the two Scripture passes listed. How can you set your mind/heart on Christ today?

Respond: Which shopping app do you find yourself spending the most time? Which shopping app do you need to delete for one week? Then delete it! And see how much time (and money) you could save.

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Introduction: What is a Declutter Discontent?

I'm sure we can all relate or recall a moment when we felt like life wasn't fair or as if God dealt us a bad hand.

• In middle school, the unfair moment was that time when the other girl got the lead role in the spring musical or first place in the talent show.

• In high school, the unfair moment was that time when the other girl got asked to prom or accepted into the college of your dreams.

• In college, the unfair moment was that time when the other girl ended up dating the boy you secretly liked for a couple of years.

If we’re honest, as we get older and experience different seasons and stages of life, we still have thoughts like these: Why God? Why me? I didn't choose this. I didn't ask for this. Why her? Why does she get (insert your dream or ideal)?

The root problem is discontentment, which is defined as a ‘feeling of unhappiness or dissatisfaction with a situation, status, or possessions.’

The remedy is found in Philippians 4. Paul writes, “I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.”

• The remedy is not minimalism, although you may have wondered that because of my enthusiasm for decluttering or organization.

• The remedy is not “finally getting married” if you’re discontent in your singleness.

• The remedy is not getting the dream job or house.

Elisabeth Elliot so beautifully writes on this passage of Scripture in such a simple way. She asserts, “The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances.”

That is the secret that Paul refers to in Philippians 4. It is not our circumstances that lead to contentment but Christ. Even in health, wealth, success, or lack thereof, Christ is the source and sustainer of contentment.

In Christ, we can do all things and handle any season and situation. Why? Because if we are in Christ, we have Him and He is more than enough. He truly makes us whole and complete (not in a romanticized or idealistic way).

And if you’re wondering what is a Declutter Discontent? It’s a process of decluttering your life in a physical and spiritual sense. It’s practical and Biblical, rooted in the Gospel, because I’ve learned that minimalism has always been missing the mark on contentment.

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